Investing in Relationship Coaching

 

While I was attending the Relationship Coaching training course, I realized it lays the basis for every aspect of our life. We are not only affected by our relations whether it be work relations or life relations but every decision we make in life extends from this facet of our lives. We love to define the relations we have as everlasting if they are important enough but on the other hand we don't bother to term them as acquaintances, if need be.

The entire treatment and attitude with which we build the relations around us is based mostly on selfish motives. It is extremely rare we term these as loved ones but very quickly we are to show our disappointments, if things take an unexpected turn. Then how can we build a healthy relationship with our loved ones? How can we maintain healthy boundaries if need be? How can we communicate our feelings aptly without hurting the emotions of that one true Love? How we say out the words which imply frustration and suffocation?

As generally explained, there are four kinds of relationships we build in our lifetime: family, Friends, Acquaintances & Romantic. Of all these, Romantic relations are foundation of a new family. However, this is not the case as one's ego mostly dominate the stance leading to different challenges and syndromes. The most interesting one of these is the "NICE GUY SYNDROME" or "NICE GIRL SYNDROME." In this instance, where the girl/boy falls for a nicety that are shown. These kind of people are carrying bucket load of resentment in their heart but they can't express it so to protect their image. Whereas, on the other hand they also don't want to take any kind of responsibility and the burden of decision making always fall on the shoulders of their partners. These people are mostly passive aggressive, forget things, withhold physical relations to punish, shame or guilt their partners. They always blame the Issue at hand, love to remain distant when the need is of communication, not good at their needs met and love to play power roles.. So the question arises: WHY ARE YOU COMMITTED TO SUCH RELATIONSHIPS?

The answer lies in those awesome memories and moments that you have shared together. It always feels like that the issue at hand is temporary and is causing a rift between the partners. And when the challenge will be addressed, all will fall into iys place. These people make you feel that the stress is caused by the third party, in most cases, the problem itself and because they love you so much, "they can't take the decisions" Their version is that priceless moments are stopping them to take any action. they have the power but can't take that step. And you like a love sting bee fall into their trap, trying to fix stuff for them, taking the burden of the decisions, facing the consequences of the step and eventually getting the blame for messing it all up. Hence, their image stays untarnished.

Mostly people demand from their Coaches to either fix them or help them get their happy endings which they are missing because of their own mistakes while their partners are the innocent, caring and Nice guys/girls. Most of the time they stress that coaches guide them to restore their intimacy hence saving the last shreds of their priceless moments. But what they miss out is the fact that they could do nothing to satisfy the demands of the Nicety syndrome. The best they can do is help themselves create a happy place where they never feel always less than what the situation demands.